Belief in Yourself

Belief in yourself is the starting point.  There are going to be people who don’t believe in you.  People who don’t think you can do something.  The trap we sometimes fall into is believing those people, and stop believing in ourselves.

A close family friend reminded me growing up that my mother treated me like a Prince.  She raised me to believe I could do anything I set my mind to.  And I believed her, which developed a belief in myself.  And it worked.  Anything I set my mind to I was in fact able to accomplish.

Over the years through different ups and downs, that belief started to wane.  I actually started to get the label (or I perceived I got the label) village idiot in my family.  And I started believing it.  The Prince mentality that I had grown up was replaced with belief that I couldn’t really accomplish much of anything.  It almost got so far as to believe that I was a loser to some degree.

But when the family friend reminded me of how I was raised, something woke up inside of me.

I believe in myself again, and that’s the start.

 

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Lunch with my friend Paul, the Trump Supporter

So as I suggested to others, I decided to sit and break bread with my friend Paul who is an ardent Trump supporter.

I thought the discussion was going to get into weeds of what he believed and what I believed, and we’d need a team of fact checkers just to be able to agree on whether it was Monday or Tuesday.

It was a completely different meeting.  We Continue reading

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I am that I am

Anytime I’ve had to write a brief bio of myself, even if I will write more later, I always start “I am that I am.”  The ultimate meaning of this phrase is what you see is what you get.  In other words, the person is secure and knowledgeable enough about themselves that they are comfortable to be able to accept themselves for who they really are.  The good bad and ugly as they say, which really none of it is good nor bad, nor ugly, it just is.

The Sage Imhotep from the 27th century BC in Ancient Egypt implored us all to “Know Thyself.”

In short, to pull this all together without going into  too much detail, the meaning is once you Know Yourself, and accept yourself, you are able to say “I Continue reading

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National Anthem

I have been standing for the National Anthem but I fully understand and support Colin Kaepernick and others for kneeling.

If the Nation isn’t going to stand up for what the flag represents, why should we stand for the flag?

My grandfather on my father’s side fought Continue reading

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My friend Paul, Trump supporter

So I had an experience with my friend Paul who is an ardent Trump supporter which I’m not proud of.  It was shortly after the incident in Charlottesville, VA. There was a free speech rally on the Commons in Boston.  He had gone apparently and I heard him say something that really upset me.

It created a visceral reaction in me.

I said to him “if you support the Nazis we are going to have a problem.”  Now I’m one of the most peaceful anti-violence guys I know, but I felt the need to stand up for Heather Heyer the young woman who was killed, to stand up for Continue reading

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The Culture of Community

When I was in High School I went to visit a friend’s family in Lagos, Nigeria.

The father owned a bank and was very well off.  To give an example, Lagos was (is?) so congested some days only even numbered license plates could drive, the rest odd.  My friend’s father had two Mercedes one with even license plate one with odd so he could drive every day. Or more correctly, be driven.  He had a driver.  He also had a cook, a groundskeeper,  a nanny, security guards (they may have simply been police officers) and other people who just seemed to be there in the house/compound.

As an American my first thought was wow, how extravagant to have all of Continue reading

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Word is Bond

Lesson number 1 if we are numbering is really that your word is your bond.

This is *the* most important thing.

If you say you are going to do something or be someplace, do it or be there.  If things change as they do (only constant in the world is change) just update someone.  Let them know you are running late or won’t make it.

Now, before I continue let me give you some background on my use of Scriptures.

If I quote the Bible or the Qur’aan or the Bhagavad Gita, or the Enum Elish, or the Gospel of Barnabas or the Egyptian Book of the Dead or any religious text, Continue reading

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Lessons

Lessons you are trying to teach people are usually the lessons you need to learn.

I wrote a post about coaching from the sidelines and then I realize I’m doing the same thing.

I was at a soccer game this weekend and I not only coached from the sidelines but I yelled at the ref.

Wow!

Okay, lesson learned.

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Master Kim’s Lesson

Master Kim was a 9th degree Black belt in Tae Kwon Doe.  A small but powerful Korean man he was graceful, elderly and wise.  He immediately became one of my idols.
The first time I met him he read my palm and asked me directly and forcefully whether I was going to finish this, whether I was going to get my Black Belt.
Of course I said yes and I started Tae Kwan Doe where I had left off with Mr. McDuffy my former Instructor.  (remember to ask about Mr. McDuffy, great instructor)

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